Dammit Nathan... When it rains it pours. Sorry to hear about the endings. But I'm glad to hear you're going to accept YOURSELF the same way you accept everyone else. Sending love, hope to hear from you soon.
As a queer, polyamorous person, this spoke loudly to me, the entirety of the fragmentation,the weird dichotomy of feeling heartbreak while surrounded by love, and most of all your choice, and that is the bravest part, the choice to say, I will keep loving and love again. Sending you wishes for joy
Oh, Nathan, this is a thing of beauty. And pain, and healing. It is so wonderful to hear that you feel ready to be yourself more fully and more openly. I wish you and your family and all of your loved ones all of the happiness in the world. Thank you for speaking courageously so that the world can learn that there are as many ways to love as there are people.
I'm both sad and happy for you, beautiful one. Sad that this newest love could not come to fullness, and happy for you and your expanded comfort with yourself. Love you, guy.
I'm a paid subscriber, but I must have missed this essay among the political jumble of the other writers I follow. Then one of my metamores posted it on Facebook today, and I read it.
I started following you after I saw you speak at Amanda Palmer's Patreon gathering in Nashville (my partner and a different metamore drove down from Pittsburgh for the Dresden Dolls show). What you said about the implications of losing your religious community spoke to me deeply. I lost mine, too--not the Roman Catholicism of my birth but my chosen, Druidic community. As a polyamorous person, your words again touched me deeply. I knew you were queer and polyam, and many people know that I am, too. Even some of my family members know, because I refuse to lie, and our relationships haven't taken the hit they did when my ex-wife/chosen sister came out as trans. Most of them have grown a lot and apologized for the way they acted then, and our relationships were able to heal. Still, I didn't offer the information until I had to, and although there hasn't been another traumatic rift, they look uncomfortable when I talk about my partners and metas and only ever ask me about my nesting partner. Unlike when I came out as bisexual and when I came out as Pagan, I didn't make a formal announcement, didn't put it out into the world as a basic fact about who I am. I thought about it a lot, and I decided I didn't need to, that anyone following me on Facebook or Instagram would get it eventually. But you inspired me to realize that maybe I am not living as authentically as I could be, and that feels especially wrong given that I chose to live polyamorously specifically to live and love authentically. I will follow your example and shine all of my light into the world for everyone to see and know. And maybe I will be able to help someone else make the choice to live and love authentically and out loud. Thank you so much for sharing all of your light.
Dammit Nathan... When it rains it pours. Sorry to hear about the endings. But I'm glad to hear you're going to accept YOURSELF the same way you accept everyone else. Sending love, hope to hear from you soon.
As a queer, polyamorous person, this spoke loudly to me, the entirety of the fragmentation,the weird dichotomy of feeling heartbreak while surrounded by love, and most of all your choice, and that is the bravest part, the choice to say, I will keep loving and love again. Sending you wishes for joy
May you find joy in love and authenticity, Nathan.
Oh, Nathan, this is a thing of beauty. And pain, and healing. It is so wonderful to hear that you feel ready to be yourself more fully and more openly. I wish you and your family and all of your loved ones all of the happiness in the world. Thank you for speaking courageously so that the world can learn that there are as many ways to love as there are people.
I'm both sad and happy for you, beautiful one. Sad that this newest love could not come to fullness, and happy for you and your expanded comfort with yourself. Love you, guy.
I'm a paid subscriber, but I must have missed this essay among the political jumble of the other writers I follow. Then one of my metamores posted it on Facebook today, and I read it.
I started following you after I saw you speak at Amanda Palmer's Patreon gathering in Nashville (my partner and a different metamore drove down from Pittsburgh for the Dresden Dolls show). What you said about the implications of losing your religious community spoke to me deeply. I lost mine, too--not the Roman Catholicism of my birth but my chosen, Druidic community. As a polyamorous person, your words again touched me deeply. I knew you were queer and polyam, and many people know that I am, too. Even some of my family members know, because I refuse to lie, and our relationships haven't taken the hit they did when my ex-wife/chosen sister came out as trans. Most of them have grown a lot and apologized for the way they acted then, and our relationships were able to heal. Still, I didn't offer the information until I had to, and although there hasn't been another traumatic rift, they look uncomfortable when I talk about my partners and metas and only ever ask me about my nesting partner. Unlike when I came out as bisexual and when I came out as Pagan, I didn't make a formal announcement, didn't put it out into the world as a basic fact about who I am. I thought about it a lot, and I decided I didn't need to, that anyone following me on Facebook or Instagram would get it eventually. But you inspired me to realize that maybe I am not living as authentically as I could be, and that feels especially wrong given that I chose to live polyamorously specifically to live and love authentically. I will follow your example and shine all of my light into the world for everyone to see and know. And maybe I will be able to help someone else make the choice to live and love authentically and out loud. Thank you so much for sharing all of your light.